Improvising Fatherhood

A blog about the comedy of being a dad.

Easter is one of those holidays that can be a lot of fun but often gets overshadowed by the other more exciting holidays like Christmas, Halloween, and Arbor Day.

Author’s note: These are jokes. The author does not condone these ideas and has not actually tried any of them…that you know of. This list will not hold up as evidence in a court of law [law_and_order_dun_dun.wav]

  • 1. Instead of an Easter Egg Hunt, go right to the source and have an Easter Bunny Hunt.
  • 2. Remind your kids of the true meaning of Easter by taking them to a graveyard and paying an actor to surprise them by popping out of a grave.
  • 3. Instead chocolate-filled eggs, eggs filled with hot chocolate. Very hot chocolate.

    4. An Easter Egg Hunt, but there’s only 1 egg, and the kids all have weapons.

    5. Video Game Easter Egg Hunt – Let the kids play popular videos games that have known “Easter eggs” hidden in the games. (OK this is actually a pretty rad idea)

    6. Regular Easter Egg Hunt but first….COCAINE.

    7. Decorate Easter Eggs…with the blood of your enemies.

    8. One of the Easter eggs is filled with bees.

    9. You tell them only one of the Easter eggs is filled with bees, but actually all of the Easter eggs are filled with bees.

    10. Some Easter eggs are covered in Vaseline. Some Easter eggs are covered in flypaper.

    So there you have it. You can’t go wrong these innovative ideas this Easter weekend. If you try any of these ideas please leave a comment letting me know how they went and remember I am not legally liable for what happens.

    Parker, our 6-year-old, is learning to read. Our older child, Chandler, was very motivated to learn when he was this age and by this time he already had a pretty strong reading game. He was one of the top readers in his Kindergarten class. Parker, isn’t resistant to learning to read, but he’s definitely not as motivated to work on it. It’s possible that this is partially due to the fact that Chandler had a lot more of our attention when he was 5 and 6 while with Parker we’ve had to split our focus a lot more.

    I decided I needed to come up with a new way to motivate Parker to practice his reading. The number one method I’ve found to get Parker to do anything has of course been, “Defy Daddy”. So whenever he showed resistance to practicing his sight words I’d say something like, “Oh that”s good. Because if you learn to read then you’ll be able to read all the secret messages I’ve been writing. And I DO NOT want you reading all my secrets.” This got him fired up for a little while. But only a little while. So I had to take it to the next level.

    Earlier this week I wrote on a piece of paper a message using only words from his “sight words” list from school. These are words he should already know how to read or is working on reading for his next lesson. The front of the folded paper said, “TOP SECRET…..not for Parker”. “Secret” is the only word I used that isn’t on his sight words list. The inside said, “I do not want you to see this. How did you find it? We do not like that you are a spy.”

    I left the message in the hallway for him in the morning. When I woke him up he was grumpy as usual. “Go away!” He said. I replied, “OK, that’s actually good because I lost my top secret message somewhere out here in the hallway. I don’t want you to find it. So please stay in bed until I find it.” (Yes And!) Then I left his room and from the hallway kept talking about how I couldn’t find the message and I was afraid Parker would find it. Then I went to take my shower.

    Sure enough this got Parker going and he got up and discovered the message. Big brother helped him read the word “secret” but had been instructed not to read the rest of the letter to him. It was Parker’s job to read it.

    When I came downstairs to breakfast Parker was all giggles. “I read your top secret message, DAD!” He was very proud of himself. That morning on the way to the bus he said, “Dad. Let’s do another secret message tomorrow. But this time let’s be on the same team and keep the message a secret from, Mommy.”

    This was huge. He wanted to be on MY team? That almost almost never happens. I was honored to be chosen. So the next night I wrote another message.

    The kind of message you wouldn’t want your mom to read.

    A very serious message, indeed. And of course, Parker loved it.

    I’ll continue sending top secret messages Parker and report back to you on our progress.

    Do you have any creative techniques for motivating your kids to learn? Share them in the comments! I’m desperate for comments!

    My wife started an awesome activity in our house. Everybody starts with a sheet of paper and draws whatever they want for 1 minute. When the timer goes off, everyone passes their paper to the person next to them and then starts adding to the next paper whatever they want. There’s no “wrong” choices. After the drawings have been passed all the way around and have come back to where they started, we all take turns sharing how they turned out. We talk about how they started and what they became.

    It’s incredible to watch my kids create something great and then completely let go of their ownership over it. They enjoy seeing how their ideas change and grow. They listen and take interest in each other’s ideas. This is the complete opposite of how they can be when doing something like building legos together. It’s such a great muscle to continue building.

    I’ll film the next session we have so you can see how much fun it is. I’m hoping we make this a new family tradition.